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Dear Justagirl,
I've been meaning to write this to you for quite some time. I've always wished that I could make you see just who you really are. But you never listen. So maybe you'll hear me in this letter to who you claim to be.
You're not just any girl. Not at all. Your silence brings beauty to the words of others. Your words crack open the things left unsaid, and shine light on all the places few dare look. You have a way about you that whispers of a majesty, and yet you always hold others up beyond yourself.
Your eyes could scratch past the surface of the "hello"s and "how are you?"s. You refuse to see less than all there truly is.
I wish that others would let you know, and maybe someday you'll figure it out. Because I know the truth. Can't you just once try to see who you really are?
You're justawonderfulamazingawesomeprettycreativefunnylovelybeautifulgirl
Sincerely,
The heart you hold in the palm of your hands.
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That's why if you pay attention to what sorts of things go wrong with little children (and for that matter adults) you will notice a theme. Boys are always attacked on what they can't do. They can't play sports well enough, they can't run fast enough. I can't be smart enough, I can't throw that frisbee. I can't get that job. I can't support my family. I can't, I can't, I can't.
Girls on the other hand are more often attacked on looks. "I'm not skinny enough", "I don't look beautiful enough" "He doesn't like me for who I am", "I'm not", "I'm not", "I'm not"...
This isn't always the case, but generally speaking it applies fairly well.
And honestly, I believe other girls are faar more critical of girls, than I ever could be. I mean, there are people (guys and girls) who simply don't take care of their physical body (gluttony etc) but that doesn't mean a girl has to be nothing but bones. Often times, I see very pretty girls who just have had their self esteem shredded for so long they can't believe they are beautiful.
As you can see, I could go on about this for a while
You're right there. Guys are mocked for not doing, and girls are mocked for not being. I think girls have gotten to this point where they believe that's the only thing life will give them is beauty, is "being". But there's really so much more. There's so much we could be "doing" whereas sitting at home depressed because someone lied and called us ugly, or fat, or something. I've been called some of the worst names, but I really don't care. I'm exactly who God created me to be. But while most girls are just "being" they could be changing the world.
There's a certain thing in a girl's brain that when they feel something, it hits them like a rock. If a girl were to feel sad, she'd be very sad. If she were happy, she'd be happy. That is what this world calls "mood swings". And it's not necessarily our mood swinging, it's the aftershock of a blow, whether good or bad. And it affects our whole being for that moment, until another wave hits us.
I think if every girl were to feel that she really was beautiful and that somebody really did love her(God) it would change that whole setup of one girl mocking another. Because that's why we do it. We feel that way about ourselves(that we are ugly or fat) and we tell other people that they are, so we can tell ourselves that we are not as ugly or fat as them.
The difference is that woman define their identity in what they are, in being, in beauty, in relationships. Men primarily define their identity in what they do, and what they are capable of. What we can conquer.
There is a reason that God calls men to lead, and woman to follow, though please don't take this the wrong way, as the world has corrupted what it means to lead. Christ clearly lays out examples of servant-leadership, "whoever wants to be first must be last", washing feet, and so on. The world's leadership looks nothing like that. Being a helper is by no means inferior, and being a leader is by no means better. (Though often people say that in some hope to overthrow.) Remember, that when paul talks to woman, he says "obey your husbands" and when he talks to men, he says "love your wives, as Christ** loved the church and gave himself up for her". This is because primarily woman are prone to love in this sense more easily, but forget that a primary method of showing love to a guy is letting him take responsibility and leadership, while men often forget to take lead with loving through sacrifice.
Hope that makes sense